Monthly Archives: August 2014



This weekend marks the official end of summer in my mind.

Of course, we will most likely have at least 4 weeks of mostly hot and humid weather mixed with rain (just in time for harvest)…before we actually enjoy the week of cool, crisp days…

But I am ready to switch out the summer clothes, pull out the pumpkins and think about soup recipes…

Seasons are a wonderful thing. Each one has its own challenges, charms and feel.

As kids head back to school, even if you don’t have them at home any longer, there is a restoring to a sense of order to the days.

And God’s beauty is displayed in each.

I hope you will enjoy the Labor Day weekend and grab the last slices of watermelon and corn on the cob. Water the plants a few more times on your porch. Linger outside to watch the sunset.

Be blessed in all you do <3


Sometimes the walk is a stretch

For the last two weeks, on Monday afternoon, you would have found me in the midst of a room full of women and one gent at the Y. Gotta give him credit for invading the harem, I guess….

The room pulsates with a blaring sequence of songs of a genre that can only be described as a combination of electronic hip hop, the theme song from Rocky and the William Tell Overture — in EACH selection…with lyrics that I hope and pray are not something crude, but who knows because I can’t understand them and besides….

We are barefoot and combining what appears to be ballet plies with boxing warmups all the while incorporating basic training exercises from ROTC boot camp. “Rest” comes when we balance first on one bent leg and then the other while our arms and bodies extend in maneuvers that remind me of our Graham when he imitates an airplane.

This is the world of “Piloxing”

And why am I doing this? Me?

The woman who as a high school freshman was so uncoordinated in the pompom tryouts that they made me a banner bearer because they felt sorry for me?

As in, I walked in front of the band holding one end of the Marching Admirals sign with an equally uncoordinated freshman at the other end. I can still hear the band director yelling “LOCHNER!!! YOU’RE OUT OF STEP!!!” ….. c-o-n-s-t-a-n-t-l-y….

Well, I will tell you why I am subjecting myself to this insanity. It is our pastors’ fault.

They have challenged our church to notice people that are in our daily life that may not have a church home and invite them to church on a special Sunday that is coming up in September.

I travel in very …. very …. small circles. So as I prayed for God to show me who may be in my path to invite, I began to realize that the young gal that kind of waits to walk out with me after Pilate’s (normal, slow moving but still quite painfully effective Pilates) might be my appointed “guest”.

I began to pray for her and as we have chatted the past month, she invited me to come to Piloxing. According to her heavily accented words and sweet smile, it would be a piece of cake for me….she is an optimist and a dreamer, I can tell…..

So I have gone to Piloxing and Pilates, with more than just my health in mind. And in chatting with her and walking out to our cars after class, I have learned a little more about her life.

Like that she just learned to speak English in the last two years, when she moved here with her husband for his job. And that she left her family and friends half a world away and is doing her best to be at home here. And that really she hasn’t understood most of what I have said as we have walked to our cars three days a week.

But I realize that she understood my smile and the fact that I have waited for her and walked with her and attended a class she invited me to, even tho she is young enough to be my daughter. And I hope she has felt the love of Christ in my efforts.

I will be honest, I don’t know if I will invite her to church on that special Sunday we are having. It’s not because of fear but rather a respect for timing.

But my heart has developed a place for her and a desire to be someone she can know cares about her. And as I pray for her and change my routine a little so that I can spend time with her, who knows….God will lead me when the time is right.

As one of our pastors said on Sunday, I care about God and so I care about the people He cares about. And that is for all people, because all people need Him.

How is God stretching you as you learn to care about others?

How has God interrupted your life so you can have the opportunity to share your faith?

Everyone either needs the Gospel, or needs to be encouraged in their faith walk.

It’s a win win when we just openly love people in Jesus’ Name <3

Happy Birthday to….

Thirty years ago today Russ and I were at St Mary’s, having arrived around 3 am. We had NO idea how many more hours would pass…but worth it …. totally worth it….



I am not quite sure where the 30 years went…they actually seem to have gone by faster than the 16 hours it took to bring her into the world…

So I thought, since my heart is kind of full this morning I would just give you 10 of the reasons I love her so very much….

1. She is hilarious. Her texts about various encounters with the public (re: “Thanks mom for the psychotherapist to the world genes”), her family, life in general…

2. She is tender hearted

3. She loves generationally….

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4. She is smart and creative

5. She was and is a good big sister….

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6. She is intentional in dressing her children in the clothing gifts of people she is going to see – intentional in showing in a tangible way appreciation for any gifts received

7. She loves the Lord and desires with her whole heart to honor and serve Him with her life

8. She is a wonderful, loving, humble, giving, teaching, caring mommy….

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and wife….




9. She goes to great effort to make opportunities happen to celebrate all the big and small events of life to make all of us feel loved….


10. She gives me good advice…like to park my car in the same spot every time I go in the mall so I don’t get lost and call her for emotional backup while I wander around various exits looking for the car…even tho she wouldn’t mind a bit talking me through it again if it happened….

Happy Birthday Dachel….we love you so much <3


Big day in our world


Cause this crazy little man is starting his first day of preschool….



and it wasn’t so long ago….


That Lola dropped his mommy off at Mt Calvary Lutheran Preschool and sat in the parking lot bawling her eyes out…..

I remember writing on a piece of paper that day, basically…..

“You are entering an arena where I will not be a constant observer. You are starting out on your journey and much of it will happen outside of our influence and ability to protect and support and even know about.”

And so it goes…the continuation of separation held in the strongest of bonds…the bond of LOVE.



No….and nothing like the love of your mommy and daddy, and Gammy and Papa, and Uncle John, and Tia and Tio and all the blood relatives and heart relatives that surround you with our prayers.

But most of all, no greater love than the love of the One who blessed us to know you, dear Graham <3

Happy First day of School Gdawg….we love you <3



And if THAT wasn’t enough….


our Sarah will be at the Sheldon in St Louis tonight for the CD release show with Letter to Memphis!

So all in all….a very big day <3


What happened here?


It is Monday…which in and of itself can take a bit of processing for me.

But this Monday comes after a weekend where we had a fairly good sized crowd to celebrate our oldest daughter’s 30th birthday. While we missed our youngest who was unable to come, it was a full time of family and friends and much eating and talking and laughing and celebrating.


And I am exhausted….which is never good on a Monday.

So I am mulling over what I taught yesterday, because usually…always…it is good to apply what I teach to how I live.

We have spent two weeks in James 1: 3-8 talking about wisdom and the wisdom of asking for it.

God assures us that our trials are not an accident. It’s not like a trial is keeping you from the main thing of life….the trial you have IS part of your life. So look at it, not as a kink thrown in the cog of an otherwise smooth existence. Look at the trial as the thing that is giving your life meaning and purpose because God has allowed it.

And if He has allowed it, He is going to help you work through it — so that’s where we can count it ALL joy…

So instead of wishing and praying the trial away, I live and pray through the trial.

He also tells me to ask for wisdom. I often ask for solutions, and if I ask for wisdom; typically it is so I can find the solution.

I am interested in the end result. He is focused on the process.

So, today, tired and full of lots of emotions and questions and a deep desire to put some current trials in the “completed” file….I am asking for His WISDOM…revelation of knowledge that is from Him….pure….peaceable…gentle….considerate….fruit-bearing….without hypocrisy….

Sounds good to me. Sounds like just what I need.

And He promises that what I ask, I will receive; if I do not doubt.

Well then…no doubt today, I have wisdom <3

God bless you at the start of this new week. Whatever you are facing, whatever you will face; He is with you. He is ready and able and willing to give you wisdom each step of the way.