I am in the holiday mood, how about you?
I love the Fourth of July for so many reasons and the fact that we had a son born on it may just be #1 on the list.
We have big plans to paint our fence and then grill out because nothing says celebration quite like painting a fence, right?
So as long as I am asking questions this morning to an unknown group of people who will not even be answering me back…do you have trouble making decisions?
My indecisiveness can be paralyzing.
Choosing a restaurant, an entree, a paint color for the fence…these are not life and death decisions and yet I can stew over them for far longer than the results merit.
Often I google a menu ahead so that I am prepared when we arrive at the table to just order the thing and be done with it.
I defer to others when it is a group selection by saying I don’t care, because I really don’t.
Please remove the stress for me and just make the decision and let me know where and when.
But some decisions in life are ones I must make for myself and they do change the trajectory I am on and have a ripple effect on the lives to those interconnected with me on the journey.
Knowing which direction to go involves a process of prayer and pondering and more prayer and more pondering and in this I have found a little life hack, I guess you would call it, and so if you are like me…here is my helpful tip gleaned as I get a wee bit wiser in my latter years.
When I am trying to decide what to do in a situation that calls for action on my part…after I have overthought every possible aspect of every single option…I allow myself to pretend like I made a decision.
I choose one option and then I let myself be in that choice for a bit…kind of like acting like I have made this be my choice for the situation.
If you are one who struggles with severe indecisiveness, this is something you will want to ease into the first few times.
But just for a little while, act like you are committing to one of the scenarios open to you.
Try it on for size and see how it would feel if you made that choice.
I am not speaking of moral things here…I am talking about things like taking or leaving a job or making a major purchase or renovation or expanding on something you are already doing…taking the next step in a ministry…that kind of decision.
I find that this exercise helps me move out of fear and into a place where I can more realistically view the consequences of a particular decision. As I try it on for size, I often find a hard no or a feeling of peace that this is the way to go even as the challenges are still clearly seen as possibilities.
For those of you who are shaking your head wondering why I even need to practice this, thank the good Lord for wiring you to be a person who can make decisions quickly and efficiently. And please, for the love of all things good, use your talents and gifting in this area to make life better for people like me.
If you are nodding your head in understanding, God bless you.
I feel you.
Maybe we could meet for coffee sometime…but you would have to pick the location…and time…and maybe order for me…
Have a great Fourth!!!!