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Words can be so soothing to the heart…passing along some good medicine for today <3

This morning I am sharing something our Rachel girl wrote and posted a year ago on Facebook.

It must have popped up on her memories and she shared again with the comment that it is still hard and still true with a full rotation around the sun between the first time and now.

As I read it early yesterday morning, it was like God was putting some balm on deep hurts and loss from the past year.

As a society we have mourned losses, found laughter where we could, decided when gathering was worth the risk and weathered some serious bouts of anxiety, doubt, conflict and fear.

I asked her if I could share her sweet and wise words and the photo that inspired them, and she graciously gave me the yes…I hope it ministers to you as it did to me.

Sometimes all we need is to know we are not alone in our grief and processing of feelings.
photo by Rachel Maxwell

Sis thought the beta fish needed to see friends since he was alone in his own cup.

She kept telling him there were other fish and he wasn’t alone and took him to each tank.

It made me cry…so many glass doors or artificial screens or masks hiding a portion of our face, making it hard to fellowship with the ones we love.

Relationships matter.

Social emotional health is of the highest importance.

Check in with those you love….<3

And for those settling for glass doors for now…I see you and am praying for your heart to be filled. <3

Rachel Maxwell September 26, 2020

The past 18 months have been hard, my friends. No denying it.

But God is good and He is speaking through the voices of those who are leaning hard into Him for strength and comfort.

Listen to the voices that speak hope and healing.

Thank you, dear Rachel, for being that kind of voice <3

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Apples don’t fall from trees, you know <3

Over the years I have asked some friends and family who are also gifted in putting words on paper to write a guest post for this little Journey.

As I looked back over those looking for one to share with you during this anniversary week celebration of the seven year mark for the blog, I found one our Rachel wrote that I posted during the first Christmas Countdown I did. Which also happened to be in 2013…so happy Christmas Countdown to us as well!

Here are the words she shared on December 20th of that year.

They have added two more little birds to their nest and her “free time” to be able to write is rather limited. I urge her constantly to keep jotting down her thoughts because they will make a treasure as you will see when you read this one <3

Shaping by Rachel Maxwell

My mom has graciously allowed me to guest-post on her blog. I am not a writer by trade and truth be told, I adore the thesaurus feature on Microsoft Word. I am humbled she would ask me to share some of my thoughts and His word with you!

Let me introduce myself. I’m the eldest daughter, Rachel. I would be the one with the two young boys that provide much of her material or humorous anecdotes. (And, all of her stories are true.) Graham (our 2 1/2 year old) keeps us on toes, wears us out, and loves us unconditionally.

It’s a beautiful combination I pray he never loses. Emmett (our 6 month old) is following right in big bro’s footsteps – absolutely delighting us, already moving everywhere, and just enjoying watching his hero brother at play!

A couple weeks ago as the boys napped and my husband was at work, I decided to tackle the basement tree. A 6.5 foot, artificial, pre-lit, three-piece tree seemed pretty simple to me, so I went for it.

Don’t worry, the tree is up and I am unharmed! But it’s in the process, the ‘simple steps’ is where Christ likes to speak to me the loudest.

You may have your qualms about an artificial tree, and I would have whole-heartedly agreed as I pulled these three pieces out of the box and set them on top of each other. The branches are all twisted and bound close together making it painfully obvious this tree is fake. It’s just ugly coming out of the box.

There are gaping holes where branches aren’t there and you can see the plastic ‘trunk’ that the makers have twisted a fake piece of garland around trying their best to conceal the plastic, the fake-ness of this tree. Being the mature mother of two, I rolled my eyes and got to work.

I went through each branch and started shaping and spreading out each one. After an hour of labor, I had cuts on my hands to prove I had done my best to shape the tree. I turned on the lights, backed away, and admired my work. That tree had gone from an eye-sore to a delight.

And then I cried.

You see, I am that tree.

I am ugly out of the box and I need lots of work.

Every sin like a branch where you can see straight to the trunk of my heart. Every argument, every quick tempered response, every muttered word, every part of my sinful nature is a branch on my tree. But thankfully, my tree doesn’t stop there and it is not finished.

Christ works on me shaping each branch with His scarred hands, removing the ugliness and creating me into something beautiful – His image.

His work in me doesn’t stop with one branch, He continues to shape and reshape me until I’m closer to perfect than I was before.

And then when His light shines in me…I am now beautiful.

You are my lamp, O Lord; the Lord turns my darkness into light.

2 Samuel 22:29

He redeemed my soul from going down to the pit, and I will live to enjoy the light.

Job 33:28

We are all works in progress.

What a beautiful reminder back in 2013 and today <3

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Too good not to share <3

This is my cousin Betty, who you may remember put together that fun Gratitude Journal I shared a while back. Info at bottom of post.

She is actually cousin by marriage but love her so much we just cut the in-law right on out and yes, this photo was taken a few years and pounds ago and back when I got to visit a hair salon more frequently than every 3 months … or more…Lord help us…

She has a fabulous coaching/teaching business she developed around communication and while it’s great for anyone in the business world, it is also very helpful for all humans because we do tend to struggle with communicating and being communicated to.

Betty is also hilarious and so when she posted last week about difficult people, I had to respond with the person who hopped into mind when she prompted her readers to think of a difficult person to deal with. Here is the result of my answer to her…enjoy! (and more importantly…learn!!!)

Take it away Betty…..

When the Difficult Person in Your Life is You

guest post by Betty Lochner

Last week, I wrote a blog post about how to better communicate with difficult people. It resonated with many of you. My cousin immediately sent me an email that read, “Yes, as a matter of fact there is someone who is driving me crazy and it’s ME!!!!”

It made me think that there are times we simply need to slow down and embrace our own difficult selves. And usually, that means we need to stop listening to the negative voice in our head.

If you’re frustrated, or just mad at yourself, you’re probably not treating yourself very well. You may be thinking, “How can I be nice to myself when there are so many reasons not to?”   

The truth is that we are in constant communication with ourselves. And much of that time we are not very nice about it.

What you tell yourself about yourself becomes who you are.

The good news is that you can learn to tame the negative voice inside your head. Below are five strategies that will help you communicate more positively with yourself.

 1. Be Self-Aware.

It’s hard to change something when you don’t realize you’re even doing it. 

The first and most important step to taming the negative voice in your head is to listen to your inner chatter.  Do you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself? Do you scold yourself, or spend time beating yourself up over something you wish you had done differently? 

What voice are you allowing in your head: the critical one or the encouraging one?

 2. Flip the Script.

When you hear yourself listening to your negative voice, take a minute to flip the script. Immediately think of at least 3 things that you’re doing well or that you’re grateful for. Place things in perspective and look for the positive. You have an opportunity to reduce your negative thoughts by recognizing them and then changing them into positive ones. In other words, slow down and talk nice to yourself. Choose the language you use with yourself carefully and tenderly.

3. Be Your Own Best Friend.

To have more positive relationships with others you need to start by having a positive relationship with the most important person – YOU.

Do you support yourself? Give yourself slack? Forgive yourself? 

If you aren’t your own best friend, it can have a big impact on how you communicate and build relationships with others. 

4. Hang Out with Positive People.

Positive people can be a huge support system, if you allow them to be. Hang out with people who think positively. If you find yourself becoming a magnet for negative people, it won’t help you. It may even be time to find a few new, more positive friends.

5. Use Positive Affirmations.

Here’s a powerful tool for starting your day with positive energy: read positive messages or inspirations aloud to yourself. Your mind takes repeated messages and files them away as important. Make the messages it stores positive, uplifting ones.

You can control your self-talk.

The bottom line is this:

  • Our actions are inspired by our thoughts. Our actions become who we are. If we can change the way we think, we can begin to change the actions we take.
  • To have more positive relationships with others, you need to start by having a positive relationship with yourself.

Begin this process by trying one or two of these strategies. Be patient with yourself. It will take some time to change the way you’ve been talking to yourself. 

And the great news? You’ll soon notice your difficult self becoming a little less difficult.

Betty Lochner is a human resources consultant, business coach, and expert in workplace communications. She teaches online courses on how to be a better communicator. She is the author of two books on communication, and a newly published journal, Intentional Gratitude. Learn more about her at Cornerstone Coaching & Training.

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